It was a silly question. It is stupid to ask whom do you love more between your parents.
Althought I have ill feelings towards my tatay after I found out about his "extra curricular activities" last year (the time that inay was still suffering from her stroke). But it doesn't mean I love him less.
I love him ...
but I just can't get over yet with what he did last year.
I fell asleep in the sofa that day still pondering about what to do with what I felt towards tatay.
A few hours later I was awaken from my slumber by something itching in my head.
It was tatay.
He was hugging me while I was sleeping.
And it was his slightly grown beard that was itching in my head, ...
he had just kissed me in the forehead.
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Oh his infidelity is not about you, Mr Scheez. It does not mean he loves you less too. =)
This is a big step here...
one day, some day... =)
some time before, merong ini-extra-curricular tatay ko. ako una naka-alam sa pamilya namin. tapos sinabi ko sa kapatid ko. buti na lang mature siya mag isip. ngayon, lam na ng buong pamilya.
nakakainuman ko pa rin ang tatay ko.
yung babae naman niya died in a freak vehicle accident. nagmamaneho ng motorsiklo tapos binangga ang likod ng isang truck.
hindi ko ikinakaila ang totoong damdamin ko sa tuwing makakaharap ang tanong na iyong binanggit sa simula ng iyong unang talata.
WALA SA KANILA.
sa kabila niyon, naging mabuting anak pa rin ako
kasi hindi ko kinalilimutan ang salitang respeto
i still recall when I used to sleep on the floor waiting for my parents to arrive from work, when they arrive my dad would then carry me into the our room and put me into the bed. I miss it, I miss him so bad but too afraid to confront him.
that was a very touching gesture by your dad.
in 25 years of their marriage, i never heard of my father having an extra curricular activities. i once asked him why. he said simply that he loves nanay.
its the one thing i am proud: ny parent's loyalty to each other.
siguro sa kanila ko yun namana.
-geek
on my 21st birthday i asked my dad "Why is it that my sexuality had never been an issue in the family?"
"Your mom and i, we didn't tolerate you. We understood." he replied with a smile.
kung ano man ang mga naging pagkukulang niya, napunan na ng mga salitang binitawan niya sakin nang gabing yun....
i still cry pag naalala ko yun...
you should ask yourself how you came to conflate your own feelings for those of your mother's. your father had no sexual commitment to you. and so his activities with others broke no commitment or promise to you.
Awwww.
Because I was already an adult when I discovered my father's numerous affairs, my reaction was not one of hurt or shock but more of a curious "Well, holy shit, no kidding."
It did answer many questions about why there were so many rocky patches in my parents' marriage and why my mother has a long-standing grudge against certain relatives who knew but apparently didn't stand up enough for her.
I think all children would rush up to defensively protect their mothers' feelings and interests: I know I would've hated my dad intensely had I discovered his infidelities much earlier on.
While it really isn't about you, as others here have pointed out, it most certainly does involve you, simply because the feelings of two people you love are at stake.
your father's sexual life and infidelity toward your mother involves you insofar as society has decided that you are allowed to participate in the regulation of marital fidelity. unfortunately, this small piece of involvement really has nothing to do with you as an individual or your father as an individual -- only how collective values treat both of you as objects and further disregard the importance of your emotional life.
I remember my bonding moments with my dad. Until he died, his extra curricular affairs were well hidden in the family.
Tinago ko kasi. Siguro dahil naiintindihan ko ang mga kahinaan niya.
nung alam na ng buong pamilya na may extra curricular activity ang tatay ko, sinasabi ng mga tao na 'tao lang tayong lahat'. parang 'to err is human' chorva.
sabi ko na lang, "hindi lahat ng rason ay pwede maging excuse."
at, tulad kay Galen, naiintindihan ko mga kahinaan ng tatay ko.
No matter what, he is still your father and he loves you no less kahit medyo lumiko ng landas.
to err is human, to forgive divine. i guess it's natural to think he wronged you in a way with his discrepancies. just remember, he's human too.
@Teban - yeah, someday. =)
@Boying - a very tragic karma?
@Anteros Dominion - ang mahalaga hindi tayo magkulang sa kanila.
@xtian1978ii - my tatay used to do that to me too. syempre indi na niya kaya ngayon, baby damulag na ako eh. lol!
i love tatay. =)
@geek - yeah, i guess namamana natin ibang traits natin sa parents natin. and i completely agree na loyal ka. =)
@YJ - mare, naiyak sa kwento mo pa lang. that is so nice! =)
@LOF - maybe the part that i didn't like in what he did is he taking for granted my inay who was still sick at that time. when he should be the number person taking care of her. inay needed him that time. that's what breaks my heart.
@Rudy - parang telenovela ang buhay namin. i never thought na mangyayari ito sa amin. masakit pala.
@Galen & Boying - mahal na mahal ninyo si tatay, ha? ganon din naman ako. ang mahirap talaga ikaw lang ang nakaka-alam sa pamilya ng ginagawa ng tatay mo. mahirap sa dalhin sa dibdib. =(
@domjullian - yeah, he still is my father. naisip ko rin kung gano ko sya pinahirapan nung bata pa ako at nagkakasakit. =(
@citybuoy - thank you friend. =)
sa akin may nagtanong, 'who do you love more, me or comrade stalin?'
haha.
i also have a funny relationship with my father when he was alive. like yours, he had extra-marital relationships, too. i never did take it against him, though. maybe because i suffer the same urges for infidelity. arghh.
perhaps at the end of the day, mawawalan ng importansya ang tanong na ito dahil ang mas mahalaga ay kung gaano mo sila kamahal sa kabila ng mga "ginawa" at "nagawa" nila...
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